Expect the unexpected

July 6, 2008

Yesterday was my last full day down here in Florida for this particular trip. My adult son had asked me (he's down here full time) what I'd like him to do for me for my last day, and I was happily surprised. I didn't expect him to offer anything. We were just having a nice time whenever I saw him and that was good enough, in fact great. So with this added bonus, I said I'd like to test drive the Corolla. I'm considering getting a new car. We did. It was certainly more fun than test driving alone. Another unexpected experience. And, to top the day he asked if I'd like to go to a movie. Wow! I can't remember the last time that happened. And, to top that off, we went to see an animated movie. None of my friends like animation and I love it, as does he. Just to let you know Wall-E is a wonderful love story with a strong ecological theme. To top that off the movie was terrific and he even asked if I'd like to eat out.

It was a totally wonderful day. I don't know how to tell you to expect the unexpected. And to expect the unexpected to be good.... happy ...joyful. Shall I say that the key is to be optimistic? Perhaps that is what expecting the unexpected means. Have a wonderful day.

Procrastination works

July 3, 2008

I had been putting off straightening up my work area for days. Papers were piling up, but I just didn't "feel" like doing anything about it. Whenever I looked at my piles and disordered mess, I got a yuck feeling, and heard myself say to myself, "you really should clean this up." Still nothing. Procrastination for sure.

Then this morning, a miracle happened. I sat down in my work area, looked at the mess, and "felt" like cleaning it up. It took me a very short time to sort things into the piles they belonged in. I put things away without there being any resistance to the task. When I was done, the area looked really nice. I enjoyed sitting in it, or walking into the room and seeing it.

I learned again what I already knew. Procrastination is often "percolation." And patience truly is a virtue.

Females in the Blogosphere

July 28, 2008

I read in the Sunday New York Times yesterday that even in the blogosphere, there is a glass ceiling when blogs are used for the purpose of bringing in income. That is, women do NOT do as well as men financially. I do wonder whether there are more men bloggers because I know that women tend to be more verbal than men and therefore they may blog more than men.

The issues involved in writing remain as significant for the blogosphere as in any other writing modality. It is, however, the newest mode of expressing oneself in writing along with other internet writing forms, like articles, newsletters and ebooks.

I believe that the information available in Overcome Writer's Block Easily is important for anyone who is writing in any format for the internet. It has not only helped me, but in addition I have recently been teaching a course on writing easily for the internet, and have found the principles from Overcome Writer's Block Easily to work extremely well, whether you're a guy or a gal. I definitely like that.

Writing "Deprived"

July 26, 2008

Here I am blogging again. Could it be that because my internet service was down for a week, I felt "blog-deprived?" Certainly when there is an activity that we love, and we don't get to do it, we can feel deprived, and feel a need to do the activity a lot once it becomes available to us again. I guess this falls into the category of "going with the flow."

It is frequently recommended that writers have a regular routine -- which I support as well -- and yet, I can as well support the activity of a huge burst of writing after a period of "deprivation." The deprivation can occur because of some external factor(s), or because instead of writing something, anything, no matter what, we just fail to write. In Overcome Writer's Block Easily I don't address reasons that we don't write because for the most part, once we make up our minds to write, we can keep ourselves moving. Still, it is important to note that there will be times (hopefully short) that this does not happen, and we then experience a burst of activity. So why not enjoy the burst?

Forgetting to Write

July 25, 2008

Today I was journaling and realized that it had been three days since I had last journaled. And, I had not noticed it till I sat down to write today. I could not say that I avoided journaling. I simply never remembered to do it. Life happens. And we have to roll with the punches as I said yesterday. So I won't beat up on myself for missing my writing, but I truly was delighted to be hand writing in my journal today. Only with the writing did I experience how much I had missed writing yesterday and the day before.

I have made it clear in Overcome Writer's Block Easily that it's important to keep writing. But that's if you realize that you're going to stop writing, or you're thinking about stopping writing. If you haven't written, it's best to just move along and not look back... unless stopping gets to be a habit. Then the lack of writing will need to be examined so you can move on. But keeping the action going is THE most important thing we can do in writing... and in life.

An Unexpected Turn of Events

July 24, 2008

My internet had been down for almost a whole week. I have missed blogging. I realized that I had come to enjoy it, though it's a new activity for me. So while I was unable to post, I none the less blogged in long hand, just to be able to keep the activity going. This entry was really written a couple of days ago, and I have modified it some. Yet the theme remains important to me and so I wanted to share it.

Life is not orderly and predictable. We need to be flexible whether in life or in writing. I was terribly frustrated being unable to get on and blog, and yet I realized I could generate an alternative plan... write by long hand. Like in the very old days. And I could have blogged a lot though I chose not to. I decided to use the time for other activities that for various reasons I had put on hold. It's good I got many of them done.

It's definitely a positive thing to roll with the punches. It represents emotional well being. Why not when stuck and frustrated reframe the situation as one that inherently offers options? In this case, I chose to hand write, and share my thoughts belatedly. Who says blogging has to appear on the day you blogged? Bending the rules to fit our needs leads to emotional growth... in writing and in life. And emotional growth leads to happiness. And happiness, no matter how we define it, is what we're all after. So, the unexpected turn of events actually was positive after all.

Morning Journaling

July 2, 2008

This morning I took my own advice from Overcome Writer's Block Easily and I kept writing despite not wanting to write. In fact I had to repeat the same sentence over and over because I really could not think of anything to say. I thought I'd have to write a whole page or more, like when I was in grade school and made a spelling error and the teacher made me write the word over and over and yet over again. But this was quite different. This activity led to opening up my creativity, and I was able to write another few pages.

Nor could I have predicted what I was going to write because it was nowhere in my subconscious... to my knowledge. Yet, I was pleasantly surprised at what came out. I learned something from what I didn't know I was going to write. Needless to say my spirits were higher than when I was blocked.

I have used this activity many many times... that is the activity of keeping writing no matter what comes out. And each time, it has led to a gratifying outcome. I encourage you to keep writing, no matter what. And there are other tips to discover in Overcome Writer's Block Easily.

Patience in the Writing Process

July 17, 2008

I just finished writing a novel for young adult girls, called (tentatively at least) JULIA: turning 14. I have also completed a first edit. I have put it aside for a couple of weeks so that I can look at it again with fresh eyes before I see if I think it's ready to give to others to read for feedback. It's been a week so far, and I'm amazed at how difficult it is for me to simply "leave it alone." I want to read it. It feels almost as if I need to read it. Yet, I know I need to look at it with fresh eyes. So I will wait. In the meantime I am letting ideas for my next teen novel percolate. And I have made some notes. And, of course I keep journaling. And I've got other projects (non writing) to keep me busy. But, I'm sure eager to re-read JULIA.

I need to make it clear that this putting off re-reading JULIA is NOT procrastination. It is rather, part of the writing process. This putting aside the manuscript for a while is definitely NOT writer's block (see Overcome Writer's Block Easily) to find out what to do to deal with writer's block.

Patience in the writing process is definitely necessary and pays off. I have followed this process for each book I've written, and in modified form for articles as well. I highly recommend it.

Being in the Moment

July 15, 2008

Today at lunch with a friend, I noticed that an hour and a half had gone by before I looked to see what time it was. I had simply gotten lost in our conversation. Over the last week I have been reading Simple Genius by David Baldacci and noticed I had the same experience of losing track of time even though the book was 500 pages... longer than any book I had previously read. It moved like an adventure movie.

These kinds of "in the moment" experiences are what I am looking to have more of in my life. It's being "in flow" as Czikesentmihalyi has described in his book Flow: the psychology of optimal experience . Being in flow is definitely what makes life feel meaningful. And research has shown that people are likely to accomplish more if they feel happy. While not aware at the time of being content, or happy, the experience is none the less an example of happiness.

In the examples I've given I can't say I tried to be in the moment, rather I would say that the experiences captivated me. Does this mean that it is not possible to work on being in the moment? Absolutely not. In fact, working towards being in the moment over time is likely the reason I was able to get there effortlessly in these situations.

A writing Routine

July 13, 2008

I have not written a blog entry in a week. It was not my intention to allow this amount of time to go by. I enjoy writing the blog, but I am not in the habit of writing the blog. Routine is critical to doing lots of things, and especially writing. I rarely miss my morning journaling. I have been journaling for so long that I don't remember when I started, and it is as routine as brushing my teeth... or putting up my decaf coffee to brew. But, blogging is new for me. So I need to be patient about getting this routine going.

I tend to want to say that I've been procrastinating in doing the blog. But, truly, it's been that I've forgotten to do the blog. The time in the day has simply gotten away from me. I have not made sure to to have it on my list of things to do, since I don't yet have a routine. I could have blogged every day and then I would have remembered to do it. But, it was never my plan to blog every day. So now, I will put blogging on my calendar.

In Overcome Writer's Block Easily I stress the importance of writing no matter what. Clearly this recommendation applies to blogging. I need to heed my own advice, especially because blogging is definitely fun.

Appreciating the day

July 1, 2008

It may sound silly, but when I got up this morning I was keenly aware of enjoying the very little things in my life. Like my 15 year old feline pawing at my nose to get me to wake up and feed her. I don't know whether my decaf coffee was especially tasty this morning, or if I was in an especially appreciative mode. But, I certainly enjoyed my morning decaf. I sat down to do my morning journaling which is part of my regular daily activity. It helps to ground me for the day as well as fuel other writing I do. I have been writing what I'm grateful for as part of my journaling for a number of months now, but this morning I noticed that I was especially grateful. Not for anything in particular. It was an overall bodily feeling of gratitude.

I have been "working on" being grateful for some time. Maybe it has finally "kicked in" and that's why I felt especially grateful this morning. I highly recommend a daily gratitude practice. Of course I wouldn't want you to think this is my own idea. It is a major part of the Positive Psychology movement that was kicked into high gear by Martin Seligman in 1998. There have been numerous books about gratitude including my favorites, The How of Happiness, Thanks, and Appreciative Living.

I hope you enjoy your day as much as I hope I will today.